Probably since the last 10 years, I am answering this question, quite frequently. The moment you meet that aunt whom you can't tolerate, or your help at home who is fed up of cleaning your mess, or a freind you are meeting after a long time, or your freind's mom, dad, brothers, sisters, your relatives, relatives of relatives, infact their strange relatives too... I wish I could keep a count of all the people who triggered my adrenaline with this question.
In the initial years, I would get angry and object to THE QUESTION (at times the question is also a sarcasm!), but it was often followed by numerous lectures - "You can't live your life alone.. [and my thoughts-How do you know? You are infesting the world with more creeps like you every year!]
-" A girl is incomplete without a man" [How? is it sex, Perverts! Or is it babies? Haven't you heard of test tube babies or adoption?]
-"I know a few good guys.. I will help you find some one.[really? why do you never help me finding colleges?]
-"you need some one to talk to"... [I am a counselor for God's sake! I can hire one for myself!]
.....And many other enlightening words of wisdom leaving me grinding my teeth with frustration.
Gradually I learnt my survival strategy. Anybody asking me THE QUESTION, I would bring a fake smile to my face and pretend like the famous Indian shy girl, look away and say, "Soon, very soon" [Now get lost!!]
My sole point of irritaion was not the fact that they are, time and again, inserting their nose in my personal life... but i was disapponted with the fact that even afetr having so many slogans wriiten about women empowerment, rallies, womens' day, lectures, movements... why is a girl supposed to be judged only by the standard of her marital status? It seems as though she is born, she is sent to school, she is sent to a job, just so that oneday she finds a suitable husband and becomes so called "complete"!
I strongly object to that. No matter what people tell you girls, remeber there is more you can add to your life. Marital status is just a part of your life, not the whole. Study what fascinates you, research what intrigues you, travel where you learn and have fun, get a job that fulfills you, sing, dance, look beautiful..and do these things because YOU want to... not because that raises the bar for finding suitable groom! And someday when you decide to get married...do so because YOU want to, not because society dictates it.
-" A girl is incomplete without a man" [How? is it sex, Perverts! Or is it babies? Haven't you heard of test tube babies or adoption?]
-"I know a few good guys.. I will help you find some one.[really? why do you never help me finding colleges?]
-"you need some one to talk to"... [I am a counselor for God's sake! I can hire one for myself!]
.....And many other enlightening words of wisdom leaving me grinding my teeth with frustration.
Gradually I learnt my survival strategy. Anybody asking me THE QUESTION, I would bring a fake smile to my face and pretend like the famous Indian shy girl, look away and say, "Soon, very soon" [Now get lost!!]
My sole point of irritaion was not the fact that they are, time and again, inserting their nose in my personal life... but i was disapponted with the fact that even afetr having so many slogans wriiten about women empowerment, rallies, womens' day, lectures, movements... why is a girl supposed to be judged only by the standard of her marital status? It seems as though she is born, she is sent to school, she is sent to a job, just so that oneday she finds a suitable husband and becomes so called "complete"!
I strongly object to that. No matter what people tell you girls, remeber there is more you can add to your life. Marital status is just a part of your life, not the whole. Study what fascinates you, research what intrigues you, travel where you learn and have fun, get a job that fulfills you, sing, dance, look beautiful..and do these things because YOU want to... not because that raises the bar for finding suitable groom! And someday when you decide to get married...do so because YOU want to, not because society dictates it.
