As my job demands i need to trust an individual completely. I believe in the Rogerian theory which, in layman's term talks about trusting the goodwill of every individual, in my case, my clients.
and in my 2 years experience of this job, i have no shame in admitting that i had been fooled many a times. i believe in a story completely by an individual and later land up finding the truth is quite different. well, i am supposed to draw out the truth from the individual. these people..i call them manipulative, at times. they manipulate for a certain benefit.
and i call some of them escapists as well. they do not want to come in terms with the truth or keep denying it.( i guess, i do not have to say that as a professional, i am not supposed to call them anything!!!!!)
and then comes a group...the hypocrites! we all hate them...but we do not realise when we become hypocrites ourselves.
one day i was taking a class on sex education for teachers.and came up on the Delhi rape case. there were a few male teachers ridiculing the situation to an extreme extent....the way we all felt. i was pleased with the fact that they still say women should be respected like mothers. later i took a class with the girls of 12-13 yrs old, trying to make them aware of 'good touch and bad touch' (or, sexual abuse in adult lingo) and it was shocking to know from them that those male teachers are the ones who make these girls the most uncomfortable. hypocrites!!!touching a child's back or breast is not raping her, but the impact that it leaves on most of them is no less than a rape...
then after observing them for some days i understood that these male teachers under the cover of love and affection, touched girls in a sexual way. i also learned that they were not like this earlier. something must have made them this way (being a follower of Rogers....everybody is good!!!) i do not wonder the reason now...
then after observing them for some days i understood that these male teachers under the cover of love and affection, touched girls in a sexual way. i also learned that they were not like this earlier. something must have made them this way (being a follower of Rogers....everybody is good!!!) i do not wonder the reason now...
what i wonder is...do they know yet that they have become hypocrites??
do we ever question ourselves.... have we become hypocrites yet??
i wnder that thos gals told u dat.. its very tough fr a prsn to talk on ths..
ReplyDeletei do say..its nt an easy job..
well written maam..
and trust me ashish, we still live in a society where a child who is abused is asked to shut up and nothing is done to the molester. so what mostly they...rather we do is supress....and later turn into some anxiety problems or others...
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