there are millions of images and messages passed on from one person to another on the topic MOM, like "if you love your mom send this message to 100 or 15 people" (do not understand the logic,how about spending that time speaking to your mom), or "if you want your mom to live 1000 years, like it in 2 secs" (do you really want your mom to suffer till she is 1000? how about helping her in her work so that she suffers less when she is alive?) since we live in a country where we are never supposed to find faults with our parents, or answer them back or disobey them (the biggest example being the Pandavas or the five brothers marrying Draupadi just because their mother said so!), we try to give as much credit to the mothers as we can. but then my notion about this concept changed as i started counselling so many children having 'mother-issues'.
i do not know about other nations, but we live in a country where marriage gives you the licence of mother-hood. i somehow feel it is a full time job and like we give interviews and pass trough different sessions for a job, it should be the same for being a mother as well.
i met a child of 10 years, yesterday. he lives in hostel and it was his birthday. he said, his parents did not remember to wish him or come and meet him. so he was wondering if i could be his mom for a day..... Proxy mom? we gave proxy attendance for our friends in college (yeah i know it is wrong but we were in college!!!) i did what he wanted me to do. i went to his hostel and took him out for the evening with his friends. Though i know for sure , anybody from my profession would say that was unprofessional. but it was something i had been doing since i took up this job.
most of the time, all that a child wants is a mother figure to ask him/her at times about his/her life, without judging him/her or lecturing him/her.
and i understand mothers also are so busy these days. then how about making a new job for PROXY MOTHERS? you do not have time to teach your son guitar, you send him to a teacher. your son is missing out on the affection and QUALITY time (not quantity mind it!) with his mother, get a proxy mom!
trust me, i am too amateur to have solved so many issues in school children. but they did get sorted out. all i did was smile at the child, tell him that it is ok to be naughty at times, and no matter what you do,i am always there to listen to your part of the story and i am never going to judge you. and this had done the trick on more than 2000 children, i guess!!! call me unprofessional, but i love to see them demanding time from me, or small favors, or just to be there during their recitals, dance etc.
and i love being a PROXY MOM( though many students are hardly 10 yrs younger to me!)
it's the joy of proxy-motherhood!!!!
i do not know about other nations, but we live in a country where marriage gives you the licence of mother-hood. i somehow feel it is a full time job and like we give interviews and pass trough different sessions for a job, it should be the same for being a mother as well.
i met a child of 10 years, yesterday. he lives in hostel and it was his birthday. he said, his parents did not remember to wish him or come and meet him. so he was wondering if i could be his mom for a day..... Proxy mom? we gave proxy attendance for our friends in college (yeah i know it is wrong but we were in college!!!) i did what he wanted me to do. i went to his hostel and took him out for the evening with his friends. Though i know for sure , anybody from my profession would say that was unprofessional. but it was something i had been doing since i took up this job.
most of the time, all that a child wants is a mother figure to ask him/her at times about his/her life, without judging him/her or lecturing him/her.
and i understand mothers also are so busy these days. then how about making a new job for PROXY MOTHERS? you do not have time to teach your son guitar, you send him to a teacher. your son is missing out on the affection and QUALITY time (not quantity mind it!) with his mother, get a proxy mom!
trust me, i am too amateur to have solved so many issues in school children. but they did get sorted out. all i did was smile at the child, tell him that it is ok to be naughty at times, and no matter what you do,i am always there to listen to your part of the story and i am never going to judge you. and this had done the trick on more than 2000 children, i guess!!! call me unprofessional, but i love to see them demanding time from me, or small favors, or just to be there during their recitals, dance etc.
and i love being a PROXY MOM( though many students are hardly 10 yrs younger to me!)
it's the joy of proxy-motherhood!!!!
i like this proxy mom (though see is 20 years older than me)
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hahahahahaha...... thank u :)
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